Need Help HIV Symptoms

[JWalter]

Anyone Please help,
21 days ago I had sex with a woman that I found out after we were done when she asked for money, was a prostitute. She performed unprotected oral on me for about 3 seconds. I told her not without a condom, she then stopped and put on a condom. We then had protected vaginal intercourse. Also she used a strawberry flavored condom and after we were done and I took the condom off there was a pinkish oily substance on my penis, I do not think that it failed could that have been flavored lube? After we were done Within 3 days I started to have pain in the prostrate and penis. I started right away on antibiotics. I have been on the antibiotics for 11 days and the prostrate feels better but I still have pain in the penis and testicles,  I am SCARED: also in the last couple of days I am feeling pain in the kidney area tenderness in my lymph nodes in the armpits, neck and groin and I noticed white blotches in the back of my throat (trush)I also have a great deal of discomfort from my buttocks down to my feet (shooting burning feeling). My temperature starts out at 98.2 in the morning and climbs to 99.8 by evening, and very dry mouth. Also last couple of days I have substantial cramping and a burning sensation in my penis, rectum area, thighs and calves.  Everyone tells me that the chances of getting HIV was very small. I have had the flu before and have not had this combination of symptoms. I was tested for all of the common STD’s and the tests were all negative.
How could I have the HIV symptoms could something else be causing it?
PLEASE HELP

[Willy50]

Hi Jwalter....... I'm sorry that you are experiencing all these symptoms.  I'm going to be like all the others and answer that the odds are slight that you have contracted HIV.  The ultimate answer will be for you to get tested.  It is not uncommon that often simply the fear is enough that even after medical confirmation people are not infected many continue to have "symptoms".

I am going to post a link for one of the AIDSmeds forums which deals strictly with peoples questions about contracting HIV.  I feel that if you can see other folks going thru the same thing that you are now experiencing you will be able to decide whether to get tested.  It's also a great forum and you will learn a lot.  My own personal opinion is that it never hurts to err on the safe side.  For me, the peace of mind that you may receive will be worth far more than the money you'll spend at the doctors.  Here's the link;

http://www.aidsmeds.com/Fusetalk/categories.cfm?catid=4

The main points that I'd make are that your fears are normal, even predicatable, and that is true of your symptoms as well.  I hope that this will give you some relief.  Since the body takes time to build antibodies after an exposure you will have to wait at least 3 weeks to be able to have antibodies that can be detected.  If you call to make an appointment for a HIV test, be sure to ask them what their recommendations are for waiting to be tested.

I hope that this will help you......

Best wishes,
Willy

[JWalter]

Willy thaks for the advice I did get tested but I think it was too early, I have not slept well in days. aand I am very concerned.
I will check out the site next.
It has been frustratrating since no help line I call will do anything but talk off a script.
Sounds silly but do you know if the strawberry flavored condom could have left a reddish residue on the penis?
I really did not remember that part until a couple of days ago.
I am married and my mistake has turned into a personal hell.
Thank you,
J. Walter

[Willy50]

I'll be brief; got to pick up a kid.

Buy another like condum and check it out.  That may answer one of your questions.  Before taking another HIV test, make sure that you ask about which test and what time window it should be taken in.  I am not recommending 3 weeks; 6 might be more like it, but you must trust the medical professionals and rely on their expertise.  

So far as the red residue...... it could be the scent or flavoring.....or lipstick.  3 seconds of oral is not likely to transmit the virus.  The virus is also less easily transmitted via hetersexual intercourse.  In all likelihood the woman was negative for the virus as well.

In spite of the low likelihood of transmission I would be very careful in the future, and even more careful about exposing your wife to anything that you may have or could contract due to your indiscressions.  There are many things besides HIV that can be transmitted.......

Once again I hope the other board will also help you with some of your fears.  They are reasonable, predicatable, but probably unfounded.  Good luck on your next test.

Best,
willy

[pancha_villa]

Hi jwalter,
    Thank you for being honest in your questions, and forth coming,Any time some one speaks up ,it tends to pave a road for other's who are to scared to ask right out ,what they need ,. Im sorry , you are in the position you are in , I hope all your tests come out negative,and keep us updated on how you are doing, ok,
take care , pancha villa